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THE HYGEINE OF MARRIAGE: LEARNING A NEW LANGUAGE-ETHNOLOGISTS VIEW
It may be absurd to think it obscene to uncover the mouthso the argument might runbut our moral code, which requires that the parts of the body connected with sex be concealed and words referring to them be inhibited, represents good common sense, since without these taboos our morals would disintegrate.
Ethnologists will not bear one out in this view. In the first place, it is true that much of what we call morality centers around these taboos, and therefore the elimination of the taboos would of course cause a large section of our morals to disintegrate or rather simply to vanish, as no longer necessary. But if the taboos are valueless, there will be no loss in the collapse of the supporting morality. In the second place, in so far as the "disintegration of morals" means a decrease in pre-marital chastity, the ethnologists are pretty well agreed, after making a survey of almost all the peoples of the earth, that there is no connection between the nakedness or frankness of speech and unchastity. Some of the peoples among whom dress is scant and who mention freely any parts or functions of the body have the most severe sexual code and are far more chaste than we. Only a little study of the customs and morals of other societies than our own will convince us that most of our inhibitions pertaining to sex are as irrational and useless as any of the examples of primitive taboos we have mentioned.
It would indeed be fortunate if we could conclude that all taboos are merely useless. Then there would be no harm done and no doubt much merriment produced by allowing all the tribes of men, including our own, to continue to set up their droll inhibitions on various portions of their anatomy, behavior and vocabulary. But the traditional taboos on sex are far from harmless. They have done and still are doing inestimable damage.
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NATURAL MENS HEALTH
There are many differences between men and women, and one of the areas in which this is most obvious is in the way they deal with health issues. Most men are impatient with illness, especially their own. They don't have time to be slowed down by bad health and want to resolve problems quickly.
What I have also observed about men, both as clients and as friends, is that it often takes a little time for them to change unhealthy lifestyle habits. I think part of the reason for this is that it takes them a while to admit to having a problem. On the other hand, once they accept that there is a health issue that needs to be dealt with and decide to make a change, they can become quite obsessive. On the whole, men are very driven by goals and once they're on a roll, there is no stopping them.
In my private practice, I have treated many men but I have noticed a particular upsurge of interest in men's health over the last five years. Certainly, when I first began my practice in the mid-80s, the vast majority of my clients were women and children. It wasn't until the 90s that the husbands of the women I treated started being sent to me - some willingly and some reluctantly! These men were not 'new age' men. They were from all walks of life: businessmen, tradesmen, athletes, lawyers - even a few doctors! Many of these men had already been down the orthodox medicine path and come away very disillusioned. So often they had been told 'You must lose weight' or 'You need to cut down your stress', but they were never given any advice on how to do this.
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